Communication 101 For Long Term Lovers

Have you ever struggled to have a real conversation when you’re afraid of what could happen next?

Do you wonder if there’s a way for you and your partner to communicate without the confusion and clutter that has built up in your long term relationship?

You aren’t alone.

Couples everywhere are facing so many challenges right now. With added pressure from harsh financial, health and family realities, it’s little wonder that so many long term relationships are in trouble.

While all of this is happening, it would be so much easier if you and your partner could get along well enough to have a real conversation about your relationship, and the difficulties you’re facing.

Instead, you’re afraid to communicate your concerns and your dreams in case there is another blow up, or a walk out – or worse, the big sulk. With so much water already under the bridge, it’s hard to know where to start.

You aren’t alone.

So many people from all walks of life feel isolated and disconnected from their loved ones, when they most need to feel the strength, courage and love of a real partnership.

Why it’s so hard to have a real conversation (and what to do about it).

Most of us have grown up knowing there are some things that just aren’t discussed.

At the very least we don’t talk about money and we don’t talk about feelings. We’ve learned not to upset the apple cart, even if only two of it’s wheels are working.

Most of all, we’ve become masters at protecting our inner worlds. We’re afraid of letting anyone get too close to the truth we hold within us.

No one told us that our heart’s deepest desire is to connect in truth and in love.

The mechanisms we’ve learned to keep ourselves safe and comfortable, are most strongly deployed when we have something difficult to face – and heaven forbid – to talk about.

Why you can’t just wait until this all blows over.

When things aren’t going well, it’s very tempting to wait until the storm passes before doing something about it. And why not? It makes sense in a way to ride the storm and then talk about your relationship.

The trouble with this is, you’re riding solo. What resources you have within you are going towards holding on – and you’re losing more and more of your connection.

To yourself, to your beloved, and to the Divine.

If you and your partner aren’t in this together, finding solutions together, you’re working at cross purposes. You’re not only fighting the storm. You’re fighting each other and you’re fighting the Divine helping hand that’s reaching out to you.

And the fear of what may happen next, doesn’t go away. Even if there’s a reprieve, the fear soon returns.

This painful cycle of isolation and heartache in your relationship will continue forever – unless you make space in your heart for a real conversation with your beloved.

The only way to stop weathering the storm alone and face your challenges together, is to break your isolation, and with the support of a group look squarely at your issues around real conversations.

As you connect with people who share your challenges and difficulties, you will find strength, courage and love coming to you in ways you never imagined.

Your journey to real conversations, even when you’re afraid of the consequences, begins with four steps.

There’s nothing too mysterious about holding a real conversation. It all comes down to four empowering steps:

1. Discover your relationship with Real Communication. What makes conversations difficult for you? Realize the peace that comes from knowing it’s OK to be afraid of speaking your truth.
2. Understand what lies beneath your communication. Learn to notice what isn’t communicated in the words being spoken and how this feeds misunderstanding and conflict.
3. Explore your barriers and obstacles to Real Communication. Get to know the Reckless Communication traits you use that steer your conversations off track.
4. Safely open your Communication Highways. There are some basic rules about how communication flows. When you understand these, it’s like having the lights turned on to a clear pathway. You know exactly what needs to be said, without fear and reaction clouding the way.

When these things come together you feel safe enough to connect with your partner in strength, courage and love.

You start having real conversations about real issues. Solutions appear – apparently out of nowhere.

I know this sounds crazy right now.

I really do know.

How the change finally happened for me (and what you can learn from it).

For many years, my partner and I struggled through miscommunication. Through not being clear enough, making assumptions and jumping to conclusions we almost lost our marriage. Too much was left unsaid for fear of what might happen next.

And what nobody believed possible, least of all ourselves and our children, happened. Our near perfect family went through a few months of devastating separation. I believed it was the end of our marriage. My partner never gave up hope.

Slowly we began to be real with each other. We gathered our strength, our love and courageously faced our fears and our dreams. We began to have real conversations.

Our relationship is now stronger, deeper and more loving than it has ever been. We know, without a doubt, that no matter what we have to face – and believe me, we’ve had our fair share of challenges – real communication helps us navigate our relationship and our lives in compassion and truth.

If you’ve wished you could break the isolation and heartache between you and your partner, and hold a real conversation even when you’re afraid of what might happen next, there’s good news: I’ve been helping people with this for years.

When you join us for Communication 101 For Long Term Lovers, our primary focus will be on teaching you how to create four core results in your relationship:

• Reach clarity – moving beyond confusion and clutter
• Experience confidence in what you know to be true
• Find connection with your partner in strength, courage and love
• Experience freedom in having real conversations about your concerns and your dreams

We’ll be taking this journey by going through four 90-minute teaching sessions spread over four weeks. This way you’ll have the time and space you need to take in what you’re learning.

In these sessions, you’ll journey through:

• your relationship with Real Communication
• the underlying influences in your conversations
• your relationship with Reckless Communication
• safely opening your communication highways

You’ll learn to make changes where they really count – on the inside.
And you’ll discover how these translate into clarity, confidence, connection and freedom in your conversations.

• Each week you’ll participate in a practical teaching session.
• You will complete an assignment, keeping you on track and helping you to begin to applying your learning in your relationship.
• You’ll receive an audio file recording of the class so you can repeat the exercises when you wish, or just in case you’re unable to attend the live class.
• You will get a PDF workbook with teachings, exercises and assignment worksheets.
• And you’ll have access to an online community of fellow participants, to share challenges and breakthroughs in a safe and supportive environment, and get personalized advice from me. No matter what’s got you stuck, the community and I will be here to get you rolling again.

Here’s what you’ll learn in these four teaching sessions

Session One: It’s OK That Real Conversations Are Difficult

You’ll discover

• Why conversations are difficult, particularly between long term lovers
• What makes real communication difficult for you
• The peace found in knowing it’s OK to be afraid of speaking your truth

Session Two: What Lies Beneath

You’ll discover

• What isn’t communicated in your words
• How misunderstanding and conflict arise in your relationship

 

Session Three: When Is Your Communication Reckless (and how to transform it)

You’ll discover

• What Reckless Communication is
• The barriers and obstacles you use that take your conversations off track

 

Session Four: Safely Open Your Communication Highways

You’ll discover

• The basic rules of communication flow
• How to move through the cloud of confusion and clutter
• A clear pathway to Real Communication

Premium Bonus Package:

Through these classes it’s not uncommon to become stuck or overwhelmed. Sometimes you need or want one-on-one, individual support, guidance and coaching. You get exactly this in the Premium Bonus Package.

Premium Bonus One:
Full email support. In other words, you can email me with whatever comes up for you at any time through the four weeks of the course.

Premium Bonus Two:
One 60 minute Real Communication Healing Session with Sandy Morris.

Premium Bonus Three:

A $100.00 discount when you purchase your Real Communication Healing Journey. Your discount can be redeemed during the course, or within 60 days of the final teaching session of Communication 101 For Long Term Lovers. Through this is a one-on-one, four month guided program, you will be facilitated through your Healing Journey to Real Communication by Sandy Morris.